How to Stop Being Shy with Ramit Sethi

How to Stop Being Shy with Ramit Sethi

What if you could talk to anyone, anytime, using the power of body language to create
an instant connection? Here’s how:

“I would like to change the behavior label of being shy. I am an idea person and do not share them for fear of being judged. I am often very hesitant to talk to people unless we can cut the BS and talk for real. I wonder if I should be more open to small talk to connect with people. I am also hesitant to share my ideas because I find it reduces my excitement when I have to answer a bunch of questions. Feeling slightly isolated! Please Help!”
– Cara

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  1. Olivier Gingras-Audet on October 12, 2012 at 2:21 am

    Btw, this was a double first as it’s the first time of my life that I ‘first’ a video …

  2. Prashant Agrawal on October 16, 2012 at 10:29 am

    I had the same question as Cara did. Glad I saw this video 🙂

  3. Asen Mihaylov on July 28, 2013 at 6:22 pm

    the article is very interesting and its like it was written just for me 😀

  4. Liz Torres on February 4, 2014 at 11:47 pm

    When people ask me how im doing I tell them I dont like answering that question.

  5. yellowleighton97 on March 3, 2014 at 2:19 pm


    • CosmiCandy on July 7, 2018 at 5:26 pm

      yellowleighton97 oh I thought its BullShit. That’s what I think when social animals don’t come to the point

  6. Roli Dharmsaktu on May 25, 2014 at 6:22 am

    This guy is awesome.
    Thanks a lot for providing such a good information to all the extrovert,introvert and ambivert people.

  7. Moulai Yasmine on June 8, 2014 at 3:24 pm

    i could talk but it tires me out and i just don’t like to talk much so i’m mostly quiet unless it’s about an important thing.

    • ThePanetone22 on July 14, 2015 at 7:04 am

      @Yasmine MovieAddict i totally understand you and i am also like that it’s bad cuz it’s already really hard to make friends and if you want to stay with them you gotta keep on talking with them cuz if you stop they’ll forget you and it will be way harder to get to them back later but talking is something i already struggle with since i didn’t had too much contact with peoples when i was a child and that made me loose a bit of interest in interactions but meanwhile i still need to talk i still need to socialize else i’ll just end up like a depressed emo rock but really i’m too hesitant when i wanna talk to people i get shy excited that this person is giving me atention and is talking to me but then i don’t know what to do what to say what to talk about so i just end up being quiet and then my conversations end up with an awkward silence until one of us walks away………………………. That’s really annoying

    • Moulai Yasmine on July 14, 2015 at 8:08 pm

      Haha that’s true i fin it hard to keep friends as well. You’re not alone pal.

    • ThePanetone22 on July 15, 2015 at 4:14 am

      @Yasmine MovieAddict Damn i’m glad i’m not the only one with this kind of problem haha i need a hug now lol

    • Moulai Yasmine on August 30, 2015 at 7:57 pm

      @kim MILLER Actually nowadays even if you do talk that won’t do you any good. If that person doesn’t like you, he doesn’t like you, and there’s nothing you can do to change that.

    • Hey!! Adeez on October 28, 2017 at 6:48 pm

      I am also don’t have that capability to talk with anyone for more takes me away from my family and whole people whom I met. I also want a hug by you guys we all are in same problem. let believe on god he gives us birth in this world for any reason.

  8. Mark Adams on July 11, 2014 at 11:51 pm

    you r really good 🙂

  9. Thomas Hernandez on July 22, 2014 at 9:00 pm

    This guy is awesome !!!

  10. Feel Good on December 2, 2014 at 4:23 pm

    It also helps to get drunk

    • Hano LOLO on February 5, 2015 at 5:48 am

      Not certain about the points made but ,if anyone else wants to uncover treatment for paruresis or shy bladder syndrome try *Enlarbo Shy Bladder Wizard* (search on google ) ? Ive heard some awesome things about it and my neighbor got great results with it. 

    • Infinite on May 5, 2018 at 6:52 pm

      Feel Good It’s bad to use alcohol as a crutch to be more outgoing. Learn to be outgoing without it first.

  11. Hans Si on January 9, 2015 at 4:02 pm

    Thanks for your video, Ramit. Please realise that small talk is exactly that which stops us introverts from connecting to people. To us introverts, small talk is verbal garbage that is devoid of meaning and value. We listen to endless inconsequential small talk getting incredibly bored. I often try my best to steer a conversation to something substantial, something of meaning and depth after the initial banter. Extroverts seem often challenged to talk about anything that has heart, soul and meaningfulness and often come off as chronically shallow. Why should we want to emulate this? That type of conversing sucks. 

  12. Ned N on April 10, 2015 at 3:29 am

    Thanks for the great advice

  13. Alam Khan on May 2, 2015 at 7:07 am

    i like your body language and also speech that’s great…..u r full beam of confidents and energy………..
    nice to meat u in youtube

  14. Carlo bermejo on November 18, 2015 at 12:41 am

    This videos are helping me a lot. Im just one of these f*cking weirdos. ?

  15. Azzy Freeman on April 18, 2016 at 4:17 am

    Thanks a million Ramit, your insights and info always help

  16. Josh Greesonbach on June 7, 2016 at 2:43 pm

    Thanks for the great info!

  17. James Mohr on October 28, 2016 at 10:51 pm

    I connected with Caring for Your Introvert more so than I expected. Very insightful. I wish more people at my work would read and think on what they read in the article.


      Same with me. Especially the end
       “First, recognize that it’s not a choice. It’s not a lifestyle. It’s an orientation.Second, when you see an introvert lost in thought, don’t say “What’s the matter?” or “Are you all right?”Third, don’t say anything else, either.

  18. SingPray Luv on October 31, 2016 at 2:38 am

    this is so good bc today I went to a church class for the first time and introduced myself and for fear of invading some ones conversation I sat to myself. instead of saying more getting to know the members etc

  19. hhh lord on November 26, 2016 at 10:13 am

    Undertale comfirmed :3

  20. James WWW on October 20, 2017 at 3:32 am

    Good advice as always! I will lookinto the “Caring for Your Introvert” article as well as google “situational identities theory”. Thanks!

    – James –

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